A man and his son were walking in the forest.
Suddenly the boy feels a sharp pain He screams, “Ahhhhh!”
Suprised he hears a voice coming from the mountain,”Ahhhhh!” Filled with curiosity, he screams: “who are you?”, But the only answer he receives is: “Who are you?” This makes him angry, so he screams: “You are a Coward!”, and the voice answers: “You are a coward!”
He looks at his father asking, “Dad, what is going on?” “Son” the man replies, “Pay attention!” Then he screams “I admire you!” The voice answers: “I admire you!” The father shouts, “you are wonderful!”, and the Voice answers: “You are wonderful!” The boy is suprised, but still can’t understand What is going on.
The father explains, “People call this ‘ECHO’, but truly it is ‘LİFE!’
This story made me to take lessons from the realities of life.

Let us reflect another concrete example:
Getting old is something inevitable. Anyone who scolds and regards a person as inferior because he is old, anyone who makes fun of the deficiencies that people have which have  come along with old age should know very well that some day he’ll have to put up with the same things.

The human being has a very short life and he is like a toy for the Absolute Creator…

A life span is destined for you and during this life somethings are being taken/ torn away from you and in the end you have to face the bitter truth; which is  ‘’the comments that you have made and the way you behaved when you were young’’. This in a way is said to be  having the returns of what you have done either good or bad. I have understood that life is a mirror of our daily needs and it always gives you back what you want.

 When you want love, you should give more love, when you want affection you should  give more affection!  When you want respect you should  feel more respect for the other people. When you want the others to be more patient you too should have a giving and calm nature.

Or else, if you have a complex of  considering what has  have been given to you as unimportant, as  worthless, then in the end you too are going to loose from your own worth.  In the end, the popularity of the person  for whom false accusements were made will increase accordingly…  

This rule is a part of our lives and it is valid for all its sections/scenes.

In the social pyschology this is called as the ‘’boomerang effect’’.

‘Boomerang’ is a mystical and esoteric belief.

Everything that is being done comes back to the doer  after it hits the target.

This is like the hunting weapon boomerang of the Aborjeens in Australia… As a matter of fact the so called reaction has taken its name from this weapon.

Everything that is being done is always for some purpose.  Every single thing that has been done gets something in return without fail. When we look at the events with this principle in mind, then we can see that in the universe even the slightest detail finds its place.

All of these occurrences are related totally to the system. Hz. Rasul of  Allah explains this fact  by saying ‘’When a curse is made for someone and if that person does not deserve the curse, then it comes back and finds the person who has made the curse’’;   and 

‘’If an individual is accusing another by some reason, then he’ll not die unless he encounters the same thing for which he has accused the other person’’.

However, it’s a pity that this fact is overlooked most of the time and the accusing, judging types of  behaviour never get lost in various levels of the society. 

The public opinion polls show openly the natural outcomes of these. They show that every accusement returns back to the people who have made them.  

However, we cannot put every event in this category.  When we make constructive criticisms for the individuals who do not take lessons from their mistakes, who come to the point of stubbornness in correcting their insufficiencies, when we invite them to a more giving behaviour and take life more seriously  this of course is something completely different and it should not be confused with accusing and judging.

Mysticism has not given any premium for such so called negative behaviour. As a matter of  fact, the human beings who have reached a certain  synthesis of the mystical culture avoid these. They know how to live without in a reserved manner   and without mentioning the name of  others/ without talking about them.

They prefer civilised arguments. They never make harsh/aggressive comments.

They think over how some events and behavioural types have corrupted the humankind and they always keep in mind that whatever they do will come back to them.  They like the statement which is used very often among the people ‘’ Consider every night as the ‘’Night of  the Kadir’’(the most sacred night for the muslims) and consider everyone that you see as the St. Elijah’’.

They can estimate that speaking nonsense will in the end cause trouble for them.

You would appreciate that  stimulating/encouraging one’s creativity is completely different than not knowing one’s limits.

Therefore, the individual should be choosy in his thoughts and while he is attacking he should be careful not to fall into the position of being attacked and he should be careful in his actions that he is going to put into practice.

We wish that the things that have been told can be shared by all and the correct path can be followed.

Istanbul- June 6^th 2001
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