oneliness, the ability of living alone, the ability of staying alone, living the loneliness, and having the capacity to handle this….
Here is a  very difficult problem that we have to face.
This feeling has no relation with  selfishness.
Actually, you can’t be selfish even if you want to.
Because loneliness is a situation that is privileged and that needs some difference.

Some people escape from the crowd, want to go quitefaraway. Here the wish, the preference is to stay alone and all by oneself.
There is a saying  “He lives all by himself..”
Here, it fits this description exactly.
This thought may come true or not. However, it never means a complaint or it can never indicate helplessness...
It is the expression of a yearning at the most…
It is possible to find it in every song, in every tear and in all kinds of observation.

Loneliness is something which lies even in the essence of  the one who is extemely miserable because he is so lonely. It is something which is felt, which is sought for even by such an  individual.

It is a fact, which has no location, no time, no place and where the details that give meaning to the life are not remembered at all.
The loneliness is a description, an expression. It is something like living  a peerless quantity and quality together at the same time.
In the world  of loneliness  the opposites don’t have the right to go on living with the details.
Maybe, they all have only one chance.
“To exist..”
But, it can’t be said that they are successful. Because they can’t get rid of the Alone and put a step outwards.

You don’t have a chance to choose, to prefer the loneliness.
This  cannot even  be mentioned. If a person has the wish of being alone, the source of this wish  is the  loneliness actually.
You can’t catch the loneliness and be lonely by force.
For a person there isn’t a  difference between  reaching  his essence  and  living the loneliness.

The loneliness teaches the individual how to be patient. It abolishes the limitation. It extinguishes the fire of existence. It leaves one without any choice.
It prevents one from  evaluating the concepts that are for his benefit or vice versa. It destroys the feelings of  domination/superiority.
Fear and sadness can’t be the friends of  loneliness. The one who is alone recognizes that he is a “Human Being”.

The loneliness accepts  the life as a progressing dream.

Those who transform living alone into a passion broaden their horizons. Such an individual gets the capability to evaluate the events on a wider platform.
Never makes a concession from being objective.
His  behaviour and reflecting these to the outside  is  balanced, within considerable limits..

Sometimes the people are left alone so that he would gather himself together and give an end to being a scatter brain…
The loneliness of the human being is similar to the hardening of cement to become concrete. Just like the cement becomes tight with the water and hardens slowly as it absorbs it, amongst the loneliness, the individual  becomes mature by  living it and by going within towards his essence.
The loneliness is the sign of  perfection and  not the coldness. It’s not even a state of being   a whole, being complete. Maybe it is the name for being self sufficient and only existing and nothing else.

To describe as loneliness the situation that is brought along by boredom,  and  the escape  from the exhausting anxieties  means to approach it in a sadistic and a cruel way.

It is a unique “Instant” that can’t be divided into pieces.
Who lives the instant  is the one who is alone. Maybe he is  the same thing.

It is not only the human being who is alone. In the cosmos, a Sun lives its loneliness in the whole crowd. The nature is alone. The trees, the wild waves that beat the coast are alone. The rivers, the streams, the animals that live together or kill each other in the forest, the birds that fly in the herd are all alone. The fish on the surface of  the sea or in the depths go on living silently with these feelings.

The Universe is alone. The souls are alone. The Angels whisper their loneliness. The Men of  Wisdom,Mystics, the Saints,  the Nebhi-Rasul (prophet) are all alone.

Loneliness !…
Imagine and portray this condition and try to live it.
It is totally unique, it isn’t equal to anything. It is impossible  for a person who lives that condition ****** kendisinden yüz çevirmesi düşünülemez***to have nothing more to do with himself. It can’t be compared with anything.

Those who say, “We have came from the loneliness and we are are returning to it” are the ones who have chosen the loneliness, understood it, and who could know its  value and its worth.

It has been my desire to explain this state, to put this concept into words, to make it felt and lived by others.

Of course with the permission that the loneliness has given to me…

Istanbul- April 25^th 2001
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