Do you
know
what is
the
least
thing
that a
human
does
simply
because
he
cannot
bear it
or more
precisely
he
cannot
manage
to do
it?
The
answer
to this
question
is “to
confront,
to face
himself”.
However,
being
able to
confront
oneself
on a
large
scale is
to be
able to
deal
with
most of
the
things
one has
been
through
in life
openly,
objectively
and in a
neutral
manner.
Moreover,
it is
necessary
for him
to see
the
mistakes
he has
made and
most
important
of all
he
should
be able
to
accept
them.
Furthermore,
he
should
be able
to
confess
with all
his
heart,
with
utmost
sincerity
that
“the
reasons
for
these
mistakes
are due
to his
negligence
or his
fears
(due to
being a
coward).’’
This
confrontation
has to
be made
so
sincerely
and
frankly
that the
person
whom he
has
confronted
should
feel
satisfied.
So that
he who
has
faced
either
himself
or the
person
to whom
he has
done
wrong
should
feel
relieved.
By means
of such
type of
a
behaviour
and
approach,
the
person
sets
himself
free
from
“the
interference
that has
occupied
his
memory
and mind”
for a
long
time,
and his
life
suddenly
becomes
clear
and
serene.
Nevertheless,
this act
may also
bring
along
some
unexpected,
shocking
and
painful
trauma.
No
matter
what the
end
result
is this
period
of
transformation
provides
one to
be
secure
during
the
course
of life.
Even so,
it is
necessary
to
overcome
this
difficult
situation.
A person
does not
want to
see “his
own
failure
and
insufficiency”
in the
events
that he
has
caused.
He is
always
right.
He can
come up
with
hundreds
of
reasons
to
justify
himself
(his
argument).
He
reflects
his
faults
on an
object
and
observes
his
inabilities
there.
As in
the
example
of Allah
observing
on his
servants
the
blessings
that he
has
given to
them, in
a
similar
way it
is the
product
of the
ego to
find the
remains
of his
humanly
aspect (based
on the
physical
body
and
the five
senses)
in
someone
else.
In
Sufism
this
matter
is
explained
as
“it
is the
requirement
of the
dimension
that
forms
the
existence”.
The
reason
is, his
existence
has been
formed
from the
light
(the
energy)
(nur) of
Rubibiyah
(the
Lordship),
and
therefore
the soul
coming
from
this
state
never
finds
itself
in any
restriction.
A human
being
senses
intuitively
that he
is
wrong,
however
cannot
openly
put it
into
words.
He
cannot
manage
it,
because
his
mind is
always
fixed on
the
worldly
values.
The
reason
why he
cannot
accept
that he
is wrong
is the
lack of
self
confidence.
At this
level,
we are
describing
the
natural
state of
the
conscious
being
who is
also
called
as a
mental-social
animal
and who
lives
his life
in
accordance
with the
result
of the
composition
of Asma
(the
Divine
Names)
that he
has.
This
situation
is
observed
more
frequently
in those
who
don’t
have
metamorphic
structures
(who
don’t
change).
The ones
who are
at the
level of
“nafs
of
ammarah”
cannot
even be
aware of
this
level (that
has been
stated
above).
Those
who
don’t
renew
themselves
cannot
progress
technically
too,
because
every
transformation
involves
the
point we
have
mentioned
above.
At the
basis of
renewal
there is
the
exchange
of
information.
If, you
have to
live
with
fixed
thoughts,
it means
that you
cannot
change
(become
more
different),
because
the
human
mind
doesn’t
understand
for the
spirituality.
It
cannot
be said
that
such a
person
has a
grasp of
“ the
tiny,
delicate
details
of
faith”.
Whoever
uses
only his
wisdom
to go on
his path
can be
confused.
Therefore,
Islam
invites
everyone
to be a
believer
and to
renew
his
faith.
Analyze
a
person,
look at
his
position
in terms
of
belief
and
surrender,
and then
decide
afterwards
(about
where he
stands).
However,
this
decision
has to
be
based
on an
objective
perception
rather
than the
expected
decision
based on
good
intentions.
We have
said
that
countless
people
cannot
even
share
their
guilt
even
with
their
own
selves
yet
along
with
somebody
else.
There
are
numerous
reasons
for
that.
First of
all, a
person’s
“ego”
doesn’t
let this
happen.
If he
makes
the
confrontation
“he
will be
embarrassed
and
ashamed
in front
of the
person
to whom
he has
done
wrong”,
moreover
he would
have
been
defeated
by him.
That
means
his
honour
will be
threatened,
so it
would be
a
miracle
to see
him
making
the
attempt
to
confront,
since
such an
attempt
will
block
his
personality.
If, the
individual
“has
made
enormous
mistakes”,
he hides
them.
Nevertheless,
the
system
works in
such an
order
that his
memory
keeps
reminding
all
these to
him.
Besides,
the
energy
that he
doesn’t
feel
where it
is
coming
from
reaches
him
externally
and this
energy
constantly
“makes
him
confused”
.
The
reason
is, the
system
works in
both
ways,
namely,
inwards
and
outwards.
During
the
process
of
confronting
oneself,
the
people
who are
close
are a
great
help for
the
person.
Moreover,
during
the
times of
depression,
he needs
to
remember
the
factor
of love.
The
following
saying
of
Goethe
will
illuminate
the
people:
“Love
is the
only
climate
in which
mankind
can
evolve…”
It will
be
inevitable
to start
living
according
to the
associations
and the
meaning
of this
expression.
As a
matter
of fact,
“the
people
to whom
our
faults
and
mistakes
in our
behaviour
are
reflected
are
mostly
our
spouses,
our
children,
our
parents
or our
close
friends.”
After
all, the
way they
keep
distant
from us,
their
reproaches,
criticisms,
sudden
reactions
indicate
where
we are.
Both “the
blood
ties”
and
being
very
close
speed
up the
act of
confrontation.
However,
the most
important
confrontation
is made
with “those
who seem
to be
contrary
to us,
who seem
to be
against
us, who
seem to
be like
enemies”.
In this
type of
confrontation,
we have
to
confess
quite
clearly
that we
are
wrong.
Otherwise
a person
only
deceives
himself.
Afterwards,
as if he
has done
everything
right,
by using
the
words
of the
Saints
he tries
to make
himself
accepted
as a
possessor
of the
saintly
life
and he
tries to
make a
show off
to the
people
around.
This
behaviour
is the
ultimate
reason
for
almost
his
destruction,
his end,
his
corruption
so to
say.
If, the
person
who is
in the
position
of
confronting,
doesn’t
make it
with the
Observation
of
Existence
(with
the
observation
of
Oneness,
without
involving
his
feelings
and
individuality)
this
attempt
will be
a “fake”
one.
He
cannot
reach
his
goal.
After a
while,
his
nature
and
character
take
over,
this
time he
goes
back and
“talks
behind
the
person
whom he
has
confronted
in a
critical
way”.
The
reasonable
thing to
do is
not to
start
this
process
“if
the
person
hasn’t
purified
his
consciousness”.
Otherwise,
more
stressful
and
depressive
days are
ahead of
him.
If we
need to
rephrase
it
clearly,
this
manner
disappoints
the
person.
I think
it would
be a
correct
evaluation
to say “depending
on the
character
of the
individual
problems
arise
during
the act
of
confrontation”.
This
becomes
clear by
the
individual’s
approach
towards
the
other
person
he
either
places
importance
for the
other
person
or he
does
not.
However,
we have
to admit
that
those
who face
one
another,
who
confront
others
generally
share
and
breathe
the same
air. |