To see oneself more than
what he really is (to be boastful) and to make a show off
has become an illness in the social life. Also, there
are some other behaviour types such as to praise others,
to flatter people, to love and obey them and trying to
be on the agenda all the time by doing these as well as
creating the feelings of pity.
It is impossible to
understand why do people are in need of doing such things
and why they keep on exaggerating more.
In order not to be obsessed
by this and not to be ridiciluous there are two things
to be done:-
1.
You should not make promises
that are hard to fulfill and you should not exaggerate
too.
2.
You should think for a short
while what you are saying, make an auto control so that
you wouldn’t have to drawback from what you have said and
make others believe in what you are saying.
At this point the chemistry
of the brain/the mind and the body should be in full
cooperation. If, you cannot make this happen, then it
is becomes very hard for you to control yourself.
The reason is that when
the speech is ruled by the body (and not the mind), then
it acts not in accordance with the brain, but according
to the instincts.
Your body
may lead you into situations which are hard to accept by
your mind. Therefore, the mind should make a halt to the
bodily desires and should not be carried along by them.
If, this had not been so almost everyone would speak
logically in the society.
Most of the time
exaggeration is present in the people who do not have an
objective, who do not share an idea, who are unhappy and
who have problems and who do not know what they are
saying. Therefore, it is necessary to be cultured and have
self training (to have self control).
The ordinary people who
could not reach the universal dimensions, who are weak,
who got stuck at a certain level definitely need to go a
long way.
Be careful, in each of the
people who have left a
significant trace on
humanity and
who have not exaggerated (who did not go to extremes)
you may find different
attributes. They have been mentioned in
different fields of work,
have guided the humans and
have acquired the
quality of leadership. However, what is common
in all these people is that they have spent the maximum
effort in order not to exaggerate.
As a matter of fact, the
most important way for advancement and for being
productive is to avoid getting caught in such a negative
behaviour type.
As you
know, there is a factor in the religion which is to
communicate/to notify (I am mentioning this meaning to
recommend Haqq). While communicating the the religion
(religious knowledge) to others one should not go to the
extremes and avoid telling them the things which are
extremely hard to understand.
For
example, if you suddenly wake someone up in the middle of
the night, frighten him/her by doing so and try to tell
him/her about a mystical subject for the sake of sawap
(positive gains) is not nice.
This means taking over
the responsibility, bu refrain from carrying it.
Have you
ever thought about the reason why the people who have
almost everything are unhappy and sad?
These people have a quality which they too cannot
understand, as explained below :
- As a result of being
extremely individualistic, the jinn(s) come along and they
trigger the feelings and in this manner they exaggerate
all the events.
If, there is a lack of
something, then they make it seem as if too much is
lacking. Also, if there is much of a thing, then they
show it as abundant. The moment you become aware of
this you should control yourself and try to tell the truth
withoout being artificial. We should not miss this small
detail.
I am saying these to explain
that it is in our hands to gain the
attribute/feeling of not
exaggerating and turn this into a life style.
Otherwise, not only would
we be harmed, but the whole human kind will be harmed as
well.
May you remain with love and
may you be entrusted to Allah.